Five Reasons to Stop People Pleasing
Fellow people pleaser here! It's been a long, bumpy journey to learn how, why, and when I started people pleasing. Truly, I think it started a long time ago, but since then, I've come a long way and learned some really important lessons.
First and foremost, for most of us (including myself and so many of my clients), we fall into the people pleasing trap when we don't believe in ourselves, our worth, and our decisions.
Sometimes, this is reflected in a long-standing pattern of limited self-worth. We, as humans, love social connection (this includes introverts and extroverts alike!). We all want to be loved and supported.
Sometimes, this means that we sacrifice some of our own needs and wants to receive that external praise and validation from someone else. This pattern of appeasing and pleasing starts the cycle at a young age, and sometimes, it's hard to get out of it.
It is so important to notice any people pleasing habits that have been ingrained within you so you can begin to adapt and change them. Why? Because when we get stuck in a people pleasing rut, we lose. We lose confidence. We lose self-respect. We lose self-trust. We lose our inner power.
Here are some more reasons to stop people pleasing:
1. You don't need their approval. I know you might want it, but you don't need it. Learn to approve of yourself and the decisions you make, regardless of whether anyone else approves.
2. You don't need their permission. You do not need permission from your peers to move forward. Again, I know you might want it, but you don't need it. If there is something you really want to do (excluding minors, because, parental permission is a thing!), and it is coming from a place of peace, kindness, and self-respect, don't let someone else's opinion stop you from doing what sets your soul on fire.
3. You don't need them to care more about you than you care for yourself. Remember, you are the only one who can determine your worth. Think about your value. What are you telling yourself? How are you caring for yourself, your mindset, and your well-being? How are you encouraging yourself? How can you build up your confidence and see your value as something that is unattached to someone else's opinions. When I began focusing on spiritual alignment, huge shifts happened!
4. You don't need to give away your power. You are a sacred, powerful, beautiful human being. You are all of that, on your own!Keep your power. Don't give it away to someone else.
5. You don't need their validation. Again, as much as you would like it, you don't need it. Yes, it is amazing when we are validated (I know, it feels so good!), but you have to begin validating yourself. Once you start, it gets easier. Then, when someone else validates you it becomes a bonus and not a necessity.
If you are a people pleaser and are suffering from low self-worth, low self-confidence, recurring resentment, and imbalanced relationships, it is time to take charge of your life and flip the script.
The key to rewinding and moving away from people pleasing is to begin moving forward towards yourself. Loving yourself, validating yourself, and trusting yourself.
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If you need 1:1 help moving forward, cutting energetic attachments, and releasing limiting beliefs that are keeping you stuck in a loop of people pleasing, reach out and book a spiritual coaching call , Akashic Records reading, or distance Reiki session with me.
You can overcome your people pleasing nature, and when you do, you will notice huge advances in your internal peace and happiness. So stop people pleasing and start healing people pleasing!
